Judgement Day

There is a break down inside of judgment, on one hand we are suppose to use our ‘better judgment’ when we do something unfavorable to others, or we are not suppose to be “so judgmental” when we are making a decision others do not find favorable. Either way we go there will be some form of judgment attached.With the frustration of hearing those phrases in our society, I started to wonder just how far the arms of judgment reach, why it is there, and how we interact with it.

It seems that judgment only comes into play when people want something.
If what they want is validated judgment doesn’t come into play with the people who validate it. However, when confronted with an opposing view, we toss the word judgment into the conversation to gain control over a decision we want that person to make, or agree with.

That being said, it is no wonder judgment has such a stigma.
Judgment is this months issue of~ Living Large.


Recognizing Judgment

It’s always interesting to see the problem solving process in action. There is a reason why the most successful people in the world keep their decision making board to only a few people. The more people you have involved, the longer it takes to come to a decision and the more judgment plays a part. There are ultimately two forms the process takes:

1-Making decisions is favor of the majority:

This format means letting our social circle decide. We do this for two reasons; we are not confident in our ability to make a decision or to gain attention from our social circle. Either way this leads to judgment. Not only are we judging ourselves, we also subconsciously judge the people we involve in our decision making process. This is based on the ratio of who agrees with what you want, and who doesn’t. This is where the popular vote comes in. With complete disregard to what we “know” to be true we formulate the questions for the vote around what we want. In this type of scenario judgment plays out like this: those in favor of what we want vs those opposed, the judgment will fall on those who are the minority, they are seen as less credible, which is rationalized as “non-supportive”. This is a massive judgment call about your ability to make decisions, which is rooted from a lack of accountability and confidence.

2- Making decisions in favor of yourself:

This format is limited to judgment being held around our own insecurities. The process is easier to maneuver as we recognize that friends, co-workers, or family will always have your back no matter what conclusions you come to. People who historically haven’t, are not included in the decision-making process. The conversations are used as information sessions to weigh out the pros and cons pertaining to any or all area’s of your life around the decision to be made. Suggestions made to counter your idea may have created frustration but once a decision is made you are always glad for the people who challenge you even if they don’t agree. There is far more power in this form of decision making. And usually, it is more about building the confidence to make the decision, as opposed to a lack of confidence in the decision to be made.