The Truth About Disappointment


How many of us have said, or heard the phrase “I am so disappointed in you." No matter which way that phrase presents itself, it cuts a deep wound in one's soul. Or at least it can feel that way.

Sparks the question; what side of the fence is it better to be on when it comes to disappointment? Is it easier to be disappointed in something or someone? Or to be the cause of someone else disappointment?
(Just the thought of having to break this down leads me to wonder if this article is going to work out... I mean... what if...)

In the world of perception which scenario is easier to take and how to handle either side of disappointment is our focus in this month's issue of Live & Learn's ~Living Large.

Recognizing Disappointment.

Here's the truth about disappointment.
Can you really be disappointed, when you set yourself for disappointment?
We toss the word disappointment around as if it is this super common thing, but it's not. Let's break down what we think we know about disappointment.
Disappointment is presented in two ways:

1-Our thoughts and expectations are not met

When we set out to achieve a goal, or take action on a new idea that we believe will produce the desired result and it doesn't go as planned, by refusing to take the lesson and instead focusing on the loss, is what we sum up to be a disappointment.
Disappointment in ourselves can feel really horrible, and leave a hopeless feeling where the hope use to be.

2- The thoughts and expectations of others are not met

The expectations that are set are what leads to someone letting you down, or you letting someone else down.
Either way that goes, it comes down to is having to live up to (what is thought to be) someone’s expectations, this can set in motion a lot of fear. When in reality, those expectations are usually perceived and made bigger and bigger by our wonderfully imaginative minds.
Feeling that you have disappointed someone, or that someone has disappointed you comes with the phrase "I had a feeling this would happen" which forms such thought processes as 'if you want something done right...'