The Upside To Failure


Sounds pretty final, doesn't it? It feels like someone is saying it your a terrible, unloveable person.
We have been taught that to be a success means to achieve or win and that in the world of success there is no room for failure.
Growing up with that mentality would certainly lead to a very complicated perspective on what failure actually is, or how it could possibly benefit us.
Instead what we are held captive by is how our inabilities result in our "failure's."
With what we are up aginst, NO WONDER we see it as a fear of failure!
What failure is really all about is this month “Living Large”

Recognizing Fear of Failure~VS~Fear Of Success

The first thing to recognize is what exactly
we are really afraid of, and where this fear comes from.
There are two types of people in this world:

1-A Person who fears failure

This person may try a few things, and if/when it doesn't work out, they get gun-shy and sometimes becomes too afraid to try something new again.
Generally, they look at failure as though they are letting people down. This, over time, results in a lack of confidence in their ability to make big decisions. They live by the "play too safe" mentality which can be a good thing, but in the world of failure, it tends to take on a far more dis-empowered meaning. These people often feel "lesser than" and/or, that the world owes them something.

2- A Person who fears success

This person understands that failure is always a risk factor, and will participate in actively seeking out opportunities that will result in either moving them forward with what they want or learning how to do it differently in their next attempt.
Generally, these people view failure as part of the learning curve with their ventures. This is not to say they don't prefer accomplishing a goal, it means they respect the idea of a well planned and sought after a vision. While maintaining the idea of “what doesn't kill you makes you stronger”
Often these people are very hard on themselves, (perfectionist) and feel it is the things they 'do' that define them. These people often feel alone when running after a big dream, as they forget it's okay (and expected) to ask for help.