Unveil Your Ego


There is a lot of confusion when it comes to ego. So much so, that there is this unforeseen limit on how much pride we are allowed to feel about our accomplishments before we risk being egotistical.

Some experts say we need to move past our ego in order to gain enlightenment. Taken in context this makes sense, but unfortunately that is not what ends up happening. But we will get to that part later. The first this we need to do is break this down. Ego, what is it? What is it for? Do we need it? Topics of this issue of Living Large.

Where is the boundary?

I have looked around for the rules pertaining to the ego.
It seems there are a lot of assumptions or just out right misconceptions about what our ego is, and the purpose it serves. But, I noticed something very strange, more and more I saw people struggling with this concept of "not wanting to come across as egotistical" and I realized there is a massive disconnect with ego.

Recognizing both sides of ego...
We have been taught that ego is bad. So I asked why do we have it in the first place? Contrary to popular belief, it is something we have ingrained in us as a species. It is what helps us move forward, enables growth, and allows fulfillment in our lives. Just as there are two sides to a coin, there are two sides to your ego:

1-Being Egotistical (Negative Ego)

This is the one we have the most experience with, and the one we fear the most. Our negative ego is activated when the purpose of the things we do is to take from someone else. This area of ego is usually rooted from jealousy, and its effects create an environment which is both frustrating to the individual, as well as to whomever this is directed at. It shows itself in the light of being better than someone else. Bigger, smarter, faster, or more capable.
People who work in this area of ego often feel they are always right, their way is best, and have no use for people who do not agree.

2- Being Proud (Positive Ego)

This is the part of our ego that we do not know much about, it creates a lot of confusion as it is linked to the ability to feel proud of ourselves. Our positive ego is activated when the purpose of the things we do is to give to ourselves and others. Unlike negative ego, this side creates an environment which others, get to participate in receiving benefits, while the individual is allowed to feel proud of their initiative and contribution. The ripple effects create a feeling that everyone is better for the experience. These people will accept acknowledgment provided there is an awareness that others contributed.